I think Austen was a visionary. I think her female characters are so bright and witty, the themes are brilliant and the men are so sexy in Austen as well – but no man has ever fallen in love with an Austen woman because she is pretty or beautiful or because she has long blonde hair. They fall in love with them because of who they are, because of their vibrancy and intelligence. If only we taught that a little more in our schools.
Anna Maxwell Martin (Elizabeth Bennet in 2013 BBC Death Comes to Pemberley)
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.